Most dominants have a type. I am not talking about redhead vs. Brunette or skinny vs. Plump. I am talking about mindset. I have found that almost all forms of submission fall into the active or passive categories, and most dominants prefer one or the other.
If you are a submissive, think about this scenario… your dominants birthday is coming up. How do you think about what may happen?
Do you look forward to it hopeing he/she will do something special with you? Or do you ask permission to plan a special birthday dinner, date, scene… ext…
That’s the difference between active and passive. Passive submission is only acting or doing something to please your dominant when instructed to do so. Active submission is knowing your dominant well enough to anticipate their wants, needs and desires and acting to please them without haveing to be told. There is no right or wrong here. They are just different. I myself prefer a submissive that actively submits. I find the thought of them putting time and effort into finding new and exciting ways to please me both erotic and inspiring. Kind of like the difference between a handmade gift and something bought at the store because I told them I wanted it. While I would enjoy that nice new crop I saw in the window, if a sub was to MAKE me a crop…. see what I am getting at? I feel like the level of understanding and connection that comes with active submission is much more my style. There are plenty of dominants that prefer a more passive submission though.
If you are a dominant, think about this scenario… would you rather order your submissive to cook you breakfast naked while wearing a wireless rotor. Or would you rather wake up to the sounds of cooking with the remote next to your pillow, push the button and hear a Yelp and moan from the kitchen.
Passive or active? What is your type?
Best wishes -SirHanz