A bdsm version of the Japanese tea ceremony.
Step 1. The formal invitation. The dom should make a formal invitation inviting the sub to have tea. Included in the invasion should be a list of things the sub is to do before attending.
A quick shower to wash, then a bath to relax.
Put on simple makeup and light perfume.
Dress in silk. Whatever style you like.
Hair should be pulled back or kept up to expose the nape of the neck.
Step 2. The waiting room. No talking. The The sub presents themself to the dom, bowing and holding out the invitation with both hands. The dom inspects her to show their approval for the sub following instructions. With the minimum of movement the dom takes the invitation from the submissives hands and motions to the bowl of water. This is the ritual cleansing. The submissive washes their hands, this is symbolic of washing away all thoughts other than of the tea ceremony. The submissive again bows and presents their hands to the dom. Slowly the dom ties their hands together with rope, then leads them into the tea room.
Step 3. Preparation. The sub sits at the low table and looks at the arrangement of flowers that the dom has placed to the left of the table.
The dom sits across from them and carefully washes the utensils and arranges them in front of the sub. The dom places the hot tea kettle to the right of the utensils next to the tea.
Step 4. Making the tea. The dom sits across from the sub and gestures for them to continue. Each movement, from picking up a utensil to putting tea in the cup must be deliberate and smooth. The hot water is poured over the powered green tea and mixed with the wisk. The sub then cleans the utensils in the bowl of water and drys them, placing them back on the table in the same order.
Step 5. Serving tea. The submissive bows and holds the bowl of tea in both hands extending it out for the dom to take. The dom takes the bowl and inspects both bowl and tea. If it was well made the dom may proffer a comment. They then rotate the bowl and slip the tea. The dom may or may not comment on the taste. The dom then hands the bowl back to the sub and they are allowed to sip as well. The bowl is passed back and forth untill the tea is gone. The sub then cleans and drys the bowl and sets it aside.
Step 6. Shibari and tea. The dom then rises and ties the submissive into the seiza position with arms bound behind. The dom then makes another bowl of tea and they are free to speak informally as the dom sips from the bowl. The sub may choose to ask for a sip of tea during the conversation. If they do ask the dom may pour a bit of tea into the palm of their hand and allow the sub to drink from it. Or they may dip fingers in the tea and offer them to the sub.
Step 7. Finishing. When the second bowl is empty the utensils and bowl are cleaned and put away. The sub is then unbound and allowed to stand and strech. The submissive then bows to the dom and thanks them for the tea. What happens after that is up to you.