The gentleman.

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When I was in highschool long ago I remember noticing something. Not a single guy I saw acted like a gentleman. I thought about this for a while, when did it become ok NOT to be a gentleman? I still dont have an answer for that. But the thought of all these boys growing up and not knowing how to be good men kind of disturbed me.

So I did some self reflection. What about me? Was I a gentleman? No. I was not. I had some of the qualities of one but lacked many of the others. So I made a promise to myself. That I would be better. That I would act like a gentleman.

I have kept my promise. I did and do try to uphold the values of a gentleman. I dont always succeed but I am trying and from my point of view that’s a hell of a lot better than most men I meet nowadays.

Why do I mention this in a bdsm blog? Because if more dominants acted like gentleman instead of sex crazed asshats that want someone to submit immediately just because they call themselves a dom then maybe.. just maybe.. there would be less submissives in the bdsm community with horror stories of being taken advantage of.

I feel like we are an endangered species. And that just saddens me.

#save the gentleman

Wishing you all the best. -SirHanz

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My path in writing, art, or poetry had always been one of seemingly contradictory things meshing to find balance.  Transporting a reader into the depths of their imagination or showing a glimpse of the world through my eyes. Inspireing new thoughts or shifting a readers view to a new perspective has always made me smile. Writing connects me to strangers and those I care about. I write as a creative outlet and as a way to share my thoughts.  Sometimes catharsis,  sometimes simply seeking to share or create beauty.  I openly write about my experiences as a dom and the kinks I enjoy. Sensuality and sexuality both find a home in my work and inspire me to write. I pour feelings onto the page like splashes of paint, throw them out into the world and for some reason people like them. It baffles me but I enjoy the hell out of it. I hope I can continue to inform, amuse, and inspire desire in you all. Best wishes  -SirHanz

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5 thoughts on “The gentleman.”

  1. We are an endangered species. With social media being the top killer. It is also how young men are being raised. Me being a Southern Gentleman I do not always put out and I do remember what my Father taught me. Keyword Father. There are a lot of Dads out there but not Father’s. You don’t dad children, you Father children. We as gentlemen must continue to be a image for your men to strive for. Good day gentlemen.

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    1. Thank you Logan. It is good to see that others see and are aware of this in society. I believe as you said we must be the example. I find it is the small unexpected things that make people remember that. Like takeing a lady’s coat, or pulling out her chair for her. There are a lot of little things day to day that we do that just seem normal for us, but are unexpected by today’s standards. Have a good day Sir.

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  2. Honestly I wish a lot more men were taught what it was like to be a gentleman. Modern society is like “woman can take care of themselves” which, is true and fine and all but I think every woman at the end of the day wants to be desired and treated a certain way and not a lot of guys are like that anymore

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  3. The same for us women. It’s called being a lady but that term has so many definitions I don’t know that there is a word to explain it.
    I hold doors for people and go out of my way to make another smile. It is humorous to see a man’s reaction when I hold a door for him. It is a simple respect for another human and once you stop respecting them you stop respecting yourself.

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