When I was in highschool long ago I remember noticing something. Not a single guy I saw acted like a gentleman. I thought about this for a while, when did it become ok NOT to be a gentleman? I still dont have an answer for that. But the thought of all these boys growing up and not knowing how to be good men kind of disturbed me.

So I did some self reflection. What about me? Was I a gentleman? No. I was not. I had some of the qualities of one but lacked many of the others. So I made a promise to myself. That I would be better. That I would act like a gentleman.

I have kept my promise. I did and do try to uphold the values of a gentleman. I dont always succeed but I am trying and from my point of view that’s a hell of a lot better than most men I meet nowadays.

Why do I mention this in a bdsm blog? Because if more dominants acted like gentleman instead of sex crazed asshats that want someone to submit immediately just because they call themselves a dom then maybe.. just maybe.. there would be less submissives in the bdsm community with horror stories of being taken advantage of.

I feel like we are an endangered species. And that just saddens me.

#save the gentleman

Wishing you all the best. -SirHanz