Daily life is complicated, frustrating, and sometimes downright exhausting. Our lives are full and often keep us vary busy. Often we have achieved a delicate balance between getting all the things we need to do done and getting enough rest. Now throw a few monkeys in the gears, headaches from allergies, the occasional 13 hour work day, bouts of insomnia, and you have the makings of real life. And then you meet someone, someone special that wants the same things you do. And now you try to balance all of that with a personal connection. Not enough hours in the day. So what to do?
Sacrifice. What will you give to have the one your heart is set on. Would you work less? Is that even an option? Even if that would mean less resources to woo your paramore.
Would you give up sleep? This is often the choice many make. Some can handle it and some cant. For those that cant the results can be incredibly destabilizing to their life. Lower job performance can cause loss of wages. Lower energy can be a turn off for the one you are trying to woo.
What else could you give?
Health.
You push yourself beyond your limits to do everything. This can be maintained for only a short time. Then you burn. Either physically or mentally you crash and are crushed under the weight of your self imposed responsibilities. You get sick, or injured because you are too tired to take care of yourself properly.
But SirHanz?… what is a dom or sub to do? Is there a way to make it work?
Yup. And it’s simple.
Communicate. Talk with your partner. Tell them your wants and personal limitations. They will either be happy you did and care for you more because of it or they will leave and though it may hurt you will be way better off without someone who wants you to kill yourself slowly for them.
Knotty Thoughts 