The first date

Ok.. so you have met someone that your interested in as a dominant or submissive.. what now?

Well.. a lot depends on the people but a safe bet would be to meet in person and have ether dinner, coffee, or a drink. These are always good settings because they are public places and you want the person you are meeting to be as comfortable as possible.

If all goes well then make plans to meet again. If not, then dont hesitate to leave. You are under no obligation to stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable in a bad way. (Yes, you can be uncomfortable in a good way)

If you meet again and all seems good then it’s up to you what to do next. Just be as open and honest as possible. Not only does that help establish trust, but if they reject you for being honest then your better off without them. (No matter how hot they are)

To those who are already experienced with bdsm this should all be old hat. But remember that not everyone who enjoys bdsm has actually been in a D/s dynamic before and may be extremely nervous about meeting someone. Especially if they dont understand what to do and how to be safe. So really this post is for them.

Trust your gut. If you get the feeling the person sitting across from you is bad news.. there is probably a reason. And establishing trust when your feeling like that is almost impossible anyway.

Plan ahead. Dont wait till the last minute to try to primp and dress. Plan out what your going to wear and how you want to be seen ahead of time. This is one less thing you will have to be nervous about.

Talk to a friend. Make shure someone knows where your going and maybe even arrange for a phone call at a specific time for them to check up on you.

Have fun. Its supposed to be fun remember? Enjoy yourself.

Best wishes -SirHanz