Love language

There are many different ways to show affection and love. For some people they feel it most through words, for others they feel affection through actions or acts of kindness/service. Some feel loved when their partner makes time for them…or makes them feel special through encouragement…

For me though.. it’s touch. When a partner wants to touch me… I feel loved. It can be something as simple as holding my hand, or a hug. Or something with a deeper feeling of connection like a kiss or a massage. This is one of the reasons that physical affection is one of the things I look for in a submissive. It makes me feel loved and cared for when they want to touch me.

I have always been like that to some extent. But due to probable trauma caused by how past relationships ended it had grown into not only something I want.. but something I need. It is never easy to admit your own insecurities or things that make you feel insecure. Especially in the content of a relationship. So with that in mind.. here are all of mine.

Anything that makes me feel like there is a growing distance between me and someone I love. This can be lack of communication, lack of contact, or being ignored. All of those make me feel insecure and I start to second guess all my words and actions. I can deal with it.. but it makes me feel unloved.

False accusations. To be accused of doing or saying something hurtful without talking to me about it first. Especially something that could be interpreted in several different ways. I NEVER want to harm someone I love. If I did harm unintentionally I want more than anything to fix it. Knowing that and accusing me anyway is hurtful and makes me feel insecure. I will probably feel like I am walking on eggshells around that person for a period of time after that.

I am insecure about my appearance. The want to touch reassures me that the person finds me attractive. Without it I honestly dont have a vary good opinion of how I look. This is something I am working on. But it’s not easy.

I would be interested to know what others love language is, and why. If you feel like shareing feel free to write it In the comments.

Best wishes. -SirHanz