Tag: Sub

Brats

You ether enjoy them.. or they drive you nuts.

Brats love to push the envelope of what they can get away with. Always testing. Often they seek the structure and attention that is a repercussion of their actions. Even if it is negative attention they feel it is better than being ignored. Some even lash out at their dom because they seek to constantly reassure themselves that he/she cares for them enough to correct them.

Some brats will submit when called out for their behavior, others want to be forced to submit. This is a crucial difference the dom needs to be aware of. If the dom is expecting submission when they call out the brat for misbehaving and the brat keeps pushing, the dom may be unshure if they have the consent to force them into submission. If it has not been discussed beforehand they may feel like the submissive is revokeing their submission. So.. all you brats out there.. communication is a necessity. Be shure your dom understands how and why you act the way you do. And if your not shure why then definitely sit down and have a good think.

Brats can be a lot of fun, but they take more attention than the average submissive. Like a dog that will chew up your shoes if they dont get enough exercise. They need the reassurance that they are loved and will act out if they feel they are not getting what they need. So walk your dog if you dont want bite marks in your sofa.

And now for the brats.. be careful how far you push your dom. A little funishment is great. A big punishment because you pushed a little to far… not so much. Teaseing you dom is one thing.. being disrespectful is another. And it can be a fine line to walk.

Best wishes -SirHanz

Q&A answers.. er.. answer.

So.. apparently only one person bothered to ask a question… so I will do my best to dive deeply into that question instead of answering a bunch of them.

Q: what is your ideal “perfect” submissive

A: hmm.. I have given this a lot of thought as of late. I will start with the short answer and then give the long.

1. She must inspire me.

2. She must make me want to be better.

3. She must make me want to do naughty things with her.

4. She must WANT me to do naughty thing with her.

I have answered this before on the blog but never really gone into depth on the subject. Let’s dive in.

Inspiration. This is something I crave as deeply as affection. Creativity is something I have always felt is an essential part of myself. But I enjoy it the most and do my best work when inspired. I love the feeling of intense focus and almost frenetic energy when I am working on something with a clear vision of what I want to create. If I find the right muse… who knows.. maybe I will paint again.

Wanting to be better. This is not just wanting personal growth. That is a part of it but this is more.. this is the desire to be the best version of myself so that I may find myself worthy of their submission.

Wanting to do naughty things. I am a lover of beauty. And I need to be attracted to my submissive. But that is only part of this. It is also the mind behind the beauty. The intelligence and wit that pulls me in. It is the seductive way she looks at me. The deliberate movement ment to entice. Whispered words that heat my blood. A tease with promised rewards..

Wanting me. This is as important as any of the other things I have talked about. Maybe more. I need to know that it’s not just my skill or experience that she wants.. but the whole of me. I want my face to bring her joy, my touch.. exquisite pleasure. I want her to see me.. the way I see her. And want me just as badly.

I may have found such a woman.. she is beyond my expectations for my first three requirements. The last… only she can know. There are complications.. she is not yet free to come to me. Responsibility to care for someone who needs it binds her, and it is not a situation I can fix. I must be patient and wait. But she is worth waiting for. Only time will tell if I have made the right decision. But I think I have. I have not felt this way in a long… long… time. But who knows what the future holds. Maybe it will fade.. but I dont see that as likely. It is a rare thing indeed to find one such person in a lifetime. If given the chance.. I will not waste it.

Best wishes -SirHanz

My perfect submissive

I have been asked a few times what I look for in a submissive, so I thought I would post it here so I can refer them to look at my blog for the answer and get more followers.

Muahahahaha!.. behold my evil plan for self promotion! (Have I mentioned how modest I am? Hmm… I will get back to you on that.)

All joking aside.. what I look for in a submissive is generally only 5 things.

1. Does she make me want to be a better man than I am now?

2. Does she inspire me?

3. Does she make me want to do naughty things to/with her?

4. Does she want me to do said naughty things to/with her.

5. Is she affectionate?

So there you have it. Simple right? Think again. This is a combination I find to be vary rare. I thought I had found it twice in my life. I was wrong. Someday maybe.. just maybe.. I will find her. Untill then I will continue down my path, learning and growing. Becoming the kind of man I would deem worthy of such devotion.

And if by chance I can help others to make less mistakes than I have it will be time well spent.

Best wishes -SirHanz