I was thinking over a lunch of watermelon and salad about articulation. And how I feel like I am so much better at arranging my thoughts in the written form rather than speaking. I have never been a great orator. I have always been one to listen a lot more than speak.
And that got me thinking about how that may have effected my growth as a dominant. Let me brake down my logic for you.
1. Knowledge is power.
2. You learn more when you listen.
3. If you want to be able to control someone, you need to know them.
4. Really understanding someone requires two things. The ability to ask good questions and to be more interested in them than yourself.
So next time you see a dom bragging about how skilled he is, or how much experience he has with submissives.. take a step back and think.. if he is really that good, why is he talking? There is a reason they say it’s the quiet ones that you have to watch out for. Because they watch, and learn…. and that gives them understanding. And when they do choose to speak, there is power in their words.
So just for today… give it a try. Talk less.. listen more. You may be surprised at what you may learn.
Converting the world to introverts -SirHanz