Kink 106

I am going to combine the spanking kink from my list with the whips and floggers kink in this edition of the kinklist exploitation. They are not the same but similar enough to be combined into one good old fashioned ass whoopin post.

Let’s start with spanking.


A gentle hand apon a womans ass.. a sharp intake of breath as she braces herself.. then a jerk or shudder as the hand falls. What’s not to like?

The submissive is both disciplined and cared for through the act of spanking. It can be sensual or painful or both at the same time. It can be done in the context of bdsm with restraints and tools or in the spur of the moment when out shopping due to bad behavior. It can be a sensual expression of love and affection or show the submissive that you care enough to correct them. Context is everything with spanking. Setting the mood for a good sensual playtime or ordering them over your knee.. two vary different experiences with the same action at the core. Spanking usually only leaves the submissive a little sore, but it can be quite painful with a paddle and leave serious bruising.

The position of the submissive also effects what they feel. When the glutes are relaxed, less painful as they absorb more impact. When the glutes are tight, more painful as the impact is transmitted into the mussle.

There can also be therapeutic reasons to spank.

Whips, floggers, and crops on the other hand…

These can create a wide variety of sensation. From the pure impact of a soft heavy flogger, to the sting of the crop, to the burning agony of the whip. These you need a little education to use safely. A mistake with a whip can do serious damage that will scar instead of leaving a welt. Floggers (depending on the weight) could bruse internal organs. Learn where to strike, how hard for the desired effect, and areas to avoid.

For a sadist with a massocist partner, whips often surve the same purpose as spanking for a non masochist. But for a non masochist submissive they are usually reserved for punishment. (Or if I just feel the urge to use them) floggers can be used as one would use a whip or as a sensual instrument depending upon design. Some are made to inflict pain, some to be sensual, or some that can be used for ether one depending on the skill of the user.
Stay tuned for the next installment of the kink list.

Best wishes -SirHanz

To Approach or to be Approached

A thought struck me as I was in the shower this morning. Part of the problem when looking for a submissive or dominant is the approach.

When looking for a dominant or a submissive it varies wildly person to person if they prefer to approach a potential partner or if they would rather be approached. There are good arguments for both on the sub and dom sides.

From the sub side, waiting for a dom to approach you makes you feel submissive as the dom is in control of if and when they choose to speak to you. On the other side though… you are forcing a dom to come to you if they want to talk. Is that submissive? Shouldn’t you be the one to approach the dom and offer conversation? This gives the dom the power to accept or decide without being forced to come to you.

See? Good arguments for both.

From the dom side, approaching a potential partner let’s you feel in control and shows them you are confident. On the other side… waiting to be approached shows you are comfortable with who you are and a potential partner needs to show that they are interested in submitting to you before you consider that.

Different styles for different doms.

I myself find that I prefer a sub to be the one to approach me. It shows interest and a willingness to serve before the first word is said. Some think of this as acting aloof, but to me if a submissive is not willing to pluck up their courage and talk to me then they probably are a passive not an active submissive and that’s not what I am looking for.

What about you? Where do you fall on this spectrum? I am curious to know what side your on and your reasons behind it.

Best wishes -SirHanz

Kink 105

I know you have been holding your breath waiting for this one..

Breathplay.

Before I start this exploration into my kink I need to preface this with a few warnings.

1. Breathplay is dangerous. It is considered a form of edgeplay for a reason.

2. Untill you are fully educated on how to do this safely…do not attempt it. And when you think you understand everything.. learn more.

3. Be aware of the physical stress you are putting on your partner. Know their limits and how far you can push them. Every sub is different, and even if they are willing to be pushed YOU need to be the one to put limits on how far they are safely allowed to go.

Well… now that the surgeon general’s warnings are out of the way.. what’s that?… you want to breathe? Hm… let me think about it.. no, no, dont rush me… I am thinking..

Let me introduce you to a fun little word. Hypoxia. When you are not getting enough oxygen to the brain all kinds of things start to happen. The fight or flight part of the brain activates. Heartrate increases as the body struggles to supply more oxygen. You are given a hefty dose of endorphins and adrenaline. Vision and hearing start to fade but the sence of touch is heightened as nerve endings go into overdrive. Lightheadedness, then euphoria. Going farther mussels start to spasm and clench as the body struggles to supply air. Panic and fear dump epic amounts of endorphins as thought begins to slow. Then finally unconsciousness.

There are lots of ways people achieve this to varying degrees and depending on the submissive. And some are more dangerous than others. Usually any method that applies pressure to the windpipe is considered more dangerous.

Here are some of the more common forms of breathplay.

Bagging.

Vacume bed.

Choking using a hand,

Or an object,

Or a rope,

Or a belt.

Air control.

Breathplay using water.

Or even chest compression using corsets, weights, straps, or devices.

There is a ton of trust required for breathplay. The submissive is literally putting their life into the hands of another. And that other is going to make them feel like it is being taken away. Makeing shure your submissive is fully prepared and capable of this is a necessity.

The shared experience can create incredibly strong bonds between a dom and sub. But if done wrong it can degrade or even shatter those bonds. Aftercare is particularly important with any form of edgeplay, breathplay in particular can cause massive subdrop due to the mental and physical stress the submissive goes through.

Hope this has been both fun and informative.

The practice of breathplay can be arousing, intense, beautiful, and exhilarating. Take your time.. learn… and enjoy.. it’s a hell of a ride.

Play safe and have fun -SirHanz

Of dreams

So its 2am.. I have been woken up from a weirdly vivid dream and I wanted to get it out of my head. I am shopping at whole foods late at night with my brother. I am a bit hungry so I buy some pickled beets (in the dream they are delicious… I hate beets.) I get some toasted tortillas to put them on and a nice white wine to go with it. I go out to the car to put things away and stop to help a lady haveing car problems. After helping her I again set out for my car and realize I am lost. I end up walking home to the apartment complex (I dont live in an apartment) and because it is late and I am tired end up on the wrong floor walking into the apartment a floor below mine. There is a girl in a hoodie playing video games, the things in the room I walk into look the same as what is in my living room but rearranged and with small imperfections and differences. I stammer an apology and turn to leave. The hoodie girl says something I dont quite catch and I almost walk into another girl comeing in the door. After explaining to the new girl what I am doing there she says she understands and I excuse myself and leave. Now again I am lost and end up at the open door to another apartment. There is a frail old man laying in the doorway bemoaning the need to have his inlaws move in so that he can support a son that abandoned him. I help him up and help him inside. He Introduces me to his wife and I talk with her a bit, she is depressed because her husband is sad. I give her some kind words that seem to help her feel a little better. She says I look tired, I admit that I am and she offers to let me use their extra room to rest. I gladly accept and she shows me to the room. She leaves me at the door and I go inside, it is a small room with a large bed in it. The blanket on the bed is a faded red and looks hand knitted. I sit on the bed and look around the room, it is then that I notice three ladies siting at the head of the bed leaning on the headboard. Two are talking to each other and how they look is blurry and unimportant in the dream. The third… siting quietly to one side not saying a word.. is stunning. She is wearing a silk drape and a tiny pair of panties both in a deep burgundy. I look at her, drinking in how the low light plays apon her skin. She smiles at me, it is a smile conveying need, want, and desire. She desires me. Slowly she moves her knees apart, spreading her legs and allowing me to see all of her. I turn and lay my head back using her thigh as a pillow. I look up at her and she says nothing, just gently caresses my face with her hand. Then suddenly in my dream it all makes sence. I speak.. oh! You must have read my blog!

Then I wake up.

Apologies if that was weird and rambling but such is the way of dreams. And it is now 3am.

Goodnight dear readers. -SirHanz

The muse

Inspire me to create beauty…

Oh muse of softest skin and honeyed kiss..

Touch the divine and show me the stars..

Breathe my name in transcendent dreams…

Draw me down with the hunger of your gaze…

Show me wonders in the amber light of dawn..

Cry out in clarion crystal voice….

Warm my heart in your devoted embrace…

And behold with fascination the marvels I hath wrought.

Kink 104

Yah.. I bet you have been waiting for this one…

But I’m not going to just come out and give it to you.

What’s the magic word?

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Nope.

Try again..

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That’s right. I am going to make you beg.

Begging.. number four on my kink list. I really want to tell you all about it. I realy do.. all you have to do… is completely give up all pretence of ego and debase yourself. Easy right?

Go on… I will wait….

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Sexy isn’t it? Especially when you add a physical aspect to the begging. This can be kneeling, putting your head in my lap, dressing sexy to try to distract me (it won’t work but I appreciate the effort), begging for mercy, or just plain old begging to be able to cum. (A personal favorite)

This is not the annoying “please can I have that toy, please, please, please ” that kids do in the mall. Oh no.. that crap gets old real quick…(I dont know how daddy doms put up with it)

No, I am talking about seductive begging. That is sexy as hell.

When a submissive begs.. I mean really begs… the kind of need that makes their voice tremble and tears run down their cheeks begging.. holy sexbeast batman! That is incredibly powerful.

And maybe if you beg.. I will tell you more.

Best wishes -SirHanz

Kink 103

And now we come to number three on my kink list…

The high heel shoe.

Now this is not a shoe fetish as much as the effect a woman wearing them presents.

I am not going to list all the great different types of high heels.. you already know them. They come in so many styles and shapes that we could be here listing them for days.

Instead let’s look at the effects they have on a womans body. They tighten the leg muscles causing the calf and thigh to appear more shapely. The ass tightens and relaxes to a greater degree as a woman walks in them giving it an alluring look. And they are usually uncomfortable to wear. That’s where the bdsm and kink aspect comes in.


I have already said that I am a sadist. So haveing a submissive walk around in something uncomfortable that makes her legs look amazing pleases me on sooo many different levels. And the more uncomfortable or hard to walk in they are.. the more I enjoy it. Part of this comes from the visual appeal and part from the knowledge that she is doing something difficult, uncomfortable, or painful just to please me. That kind of devotion is incredibly sexy. And one of the best parts for me is that I didnt ask the submissive to wear them. They did it all on their own just for my enjoyment.

So next time a dominant asks you to dinner and you want to impress.. a short skirt with 5 inch heels, or if you have them.. ballet heels.. will definitely make them happy.

Best wishes -SirHanz

The suit

The classic image of a dom. We all know it. It’s a man in a suit. And there is nothing wrong with dressing nicely. But in my experience? The best doms I know of wear tshirts and jeans. Why do they not wear a suit?….. wait for it…. this is the whole point…. because they dont have to in order to be dominant. They dont need cuffs, whips, or anything else to be what they are. They could be naked in a snow storm and if they told their sub to strip so they could use their clothes the sub would do it in a heartbeat.

It’s not the clothes that make a dom, or how dominant they are in everyday life.

But wait you say… doesn’t a dominant always act dominant? If you think that then your missing the point.

Because they are a dominant they get to choose when how and where they assert their dominance. Like deciding to wear a tshirt and jeans instead of a suit.

So next time you meet of a hot looking dom in a suit.. stop and take his measure. Did he just decide to wear a suit today? Or is it that he needs the suit like a crutch. Maybe the dom in the corner that looks like he could give two shits about what he is wearing may actually be worth talking to. The dom in the corner doesn’t need someone else’s approval of how he looks to be dominant. And isn’t that what it’s all about?

Best wishes -SirHanz

The sleeper awakens

Slowly as though coming up for air I awake..

Days.. years.. a blur of muted colors and shapes..

Are you awake? You think so… how would you know?

Then something happens.. and I wake up..

Suddenly everything comes into focus, crystalline clarity pours through the world…

It is only then that I know I was sleeping…

The vivid color of a leaf, the subtle smell of the breeze… intoxicating… enthralling..

Beauty entrancing, a whole world filled with wonderous crisp details..

And then the demons come..

People… overflowing with love, hope, joy, contentment….

Sadness, loneliness, pain, regret… pulling at my mind..

Confusion, anger, suffering, fear… too much.. too clear..

And so I sleep.. and forget the beauty of being awake..

Life is but a dream… safe.. muted..

People are just people once again, and I am content to wait..

For I have forgotten what it’s like to be awake.

The gentleman.

When I was in highschool long ago I remember noticing something. Not a single guy I saw acted like a gentleman. I thought about this for a while, when did it become ok NOT to be a gentleman? I still dont have an answer for that. But the thought of all these boys growing up and not knowing how to be good men kind of disturbed me.

So I did some self reflection. What about me? Was I a gentleman? No. I was not. I had some of the qualities of one but lacked many of the others. So I made a promise to myself. That I would be better. That I would act like a gentleman.

I have kept my promise. I did and do try to uphold the values of a gentleman. I dont always succeed but I am trying and from my point of view that’s a hell of a lot better than most men I meet nowadays.

Why do I mention this in a bdsm blog? Because if more dominants acted like gentleman instead of sex crazed asshats that want someone to submit immediately just because they call themselves a dom then maybe.. just maybe.. there would be less submissives in the bdsm community with horror stories of being taken advantage of.

I feel like we are an endangered species. And that just saddens me.

#save the gentleman

Wishing you all the best. -SirHanz