The “nice guy” paradox.

I have recently come to learn that “nice guy” on social media has been ruined by men using that moniker to camouflage predatory behavior.  Now even if you actually are nice you cant say so or you may be labeled a predator. Pretending to be nice and helpful to try to get into some girls pants. And the sad part is.. I cant even blame ladies for avoiding guys who claim to be a “nice guy” because it seems the predators outnumber those that are actually nice! And I feel suspect every time I say something supportive or kind! Wow… think about that. Apparently now the only way to be seen as genuine is to be an ass. Is this what the future will be? Nice guys pretending to be assholes so they will be seen as genuine and can get their foot in the door to show though their actions they are not really an asshole?
 Seriously.. this is sooo fucked up. If your nice… you have to lie about being nice. But if your actually genuinely nice you dont want to lie and get labeled a predator.  So you are forced to keep your trap shut and let your actions do the talking…… so what is a nice guy to do? Say nothing and only post pictures of himself helping people and being nice? That would look pretty fake wouldn’t it?
 So here is my take away from all of this… we cant win. The “nice guy” has been painted into a corner with little hope to show he is not an asshat trying to get into your pants by pretending to be kind and romantic.  So I say fuck it. I’m gonna just be me. I own who I am flaws and all. But I am nice. And I will continue trying to be nice. And if I get painted as a predator for it… just going to block those people and move on. If you dont take the time to get to know me before throwing accusations that could ruin my chances of getting to know some good people… well… you may be genuine.. but your not nice. Thank you for showing your true colors so I can avoid you.
 So that’s it… rant over. I will be hideing in the corner drinking my tea. And if you need help but are so self centered as to think any guy trying to help you wants to be repaid with sex… find a predator to help you. At least he will deserve to get throat punched for helping to change your tire on the roadside. I’ll keep on driving and wish you luck. But if your bleeding out I will do my best to staunch the wound. And when I get slapped for doing it, I will nod and move on knowing I did something good.. and for me… that’s enough.

Best wishes -sirhanz

Apathy.

Back long before cell phones, computers, and even cars there was a tiny island that was at war with itself. In this war there were trained soldiers that even modern armies try to emulate. They fought without fear of death, for they believed that they were already dead and must win their battle in order to win back their lives. I speek of course of the samurai.

But what do they have to do with apathy you ask… absolutely nothing.. and that’s the point. They were the polar opposite of apathy. They were taught that there were rules.. a code. The Hagakure, outlining the rules and virtues of bushido. They were taught to never hesitate, to act according to their code without thought or consideration of personal safety.

Now that we have established a baseline for what is not apathy, let’s look at the most extreme examples of apathy from today’s society. That of the shooter. We have had a rash of shootings in this country. Some guy walks into a business or movie theater and opens fire. And in almost all cases what happens.. people run, try to hide.. and in almost every case the guy just walks through the rooms killing. I recognize these as horrible tragedies and my heart goes out to the victims families, but what I cant seem to wrap my head around is that in all but a few of these shootings the perpetrator was unopposed by those he was shooting. Now dont get angry and say “they were scared they were going to die! Of course they ran and hid!” Stop for a moment and put yourself in that position. There is a man with a gun who you know for a fact will kill you all if given the chance… run? Maybe you will get away.. but if you run he may see you and kill you anyway. Hide? Are you willing to bet your life that he cant find you? Because if he does you will have zero chance of surviving. This is my point. When you know for shure you will die if you dont stop the attacker and you lie to yourself that “maybe he will not see you” your throwing away not only your life.. but the life of everyone else that is too deeply apathetic to act even in the defense of their own life. Is this how little we value life? We love to talk about the sacredness of life.. but when it’s our turn to act? We do nothing.

You have no idea how sad this makes me. People that could have lived full healthy lives.. dead… because not one person was willing to die to stop it.. even if they were about to be killed anyway.

Just recently there was an event that put hope back in my heart. A school shooting, the worst kind of violence. Children who should never see that kind of destruction and cruelty suddenly thrust into it. And what happened? 3 students.. rushed the shooter. Two were shot. One brave soul lost his life far too soon. The shooter was subdued untill authoritys could arrive. But here is the hope.. stop and think.. how many lives were saved? How many children will see their families again? Here were three people.. not even adults… who recognized the cost of inaction. One paid the highest cost. A child did what grown men and ladys refused to do. We say that he was extraordinary, and I agree.. but the question now becomes… why are we so apathetic that we will not act to save our own life.. let alone the lives of others.

I refuse to be the lamb led to slaughter. I will fight to win back my life. I will spend my life if necessary to save others. For when there is a man with a gun who is bent on killing… I am already dead.

All it takes is 3 children to stop a gunman. Why can’t adults do better. I hope beyond hope no one is ever put into the situation where you have to make that choice. But if you are.. remeber.. children did it. How could we do any less?

Best wishes -SirHanz

Rant of the day

The first thing on my list of abominations is MANGO SALSA. That is not salsa! At best it’s chutney. At worst it is ruining a good salsa by shoving fruit where it doesn’t belong. And pineapple salsa? Ask any cam girl… there are some places you just shouldn’t shove a pineapple, and salsa is one of them.

Number two on my list has to go to mopeds. These basterd children of scooters and bicycles are death traps. Not enough power to keep you from getting run over but just enough for you to fool yourself into thinking it’s ok to be on the road. Seriously, you dont even need a drivers license to ride one. That alone should tell you not to drive it on the road. These rolling hit me signs should come with an automatic darwin award and a CD filled with emo “I want to die” songs.

The envelope please…

And the number three abomination on my list goes to….. soybeans. Yup… soy. But how could that possibly be bad you ask? Because in the last 15 years soybeans have been genetically modified so much there is now almost no non modified beans left on the whole earth. But why is that so bad? 2 reasons.

1. Almost no one used to be allergic to soy. Now there are over a million just in the USA including me. I was fine with it until they went gmo. Now.. they do horrible things to my poor belly.

2. I am a vegetarian and damm it if allmost fucking EVERYTHING made for vegetarians is made of God dammed soy! And dont get me started on Japanese food. I used to love fryed tofu with noodles. Now I can’t even eat the noodles because they put soy sauce in the broth!

Ok… deep breath… whew…. (on a scale of 1 to eat a dick.) I give that rant a ( 6.4 ) lower marks for only mild vitriol.

Heat.

I fucking hate….. heat. I have a high metabolism and my normal body temperature runs slightly high because of it. Combine that with the fact my body does not shed heat well and I get uncomfortable at 80 degrees if there is no breeze to carry away the heat. At 90 to 95… I am miserable, it’s not hot enough to get rid of the humidity but hot enough to make me cook. High humidity prevents sweat from evaporating and keeps the body from cooling itself. At 100 degrees the humidity at ground level drops because the water rises. I am actually more comfortable at 100 than a humid 90. There are only a few exceptions, one is atics. The heat and humidity both get trapped up there, and there is no airflow to carry the heat away from your body. At 100 degrees it is 130 in the atic with 90% humidity. That shit will kill you if your not careful. And for me? It’s worse.

Most of my work is generally outside, so summers in Texas are brutal for me. Today there is a heat advisory with temperatures on the heat index of 113 expected and it got me thinking… using the environment for bdsm is totally a thing! Up north it’s the cold, snow and ice can have soooo many uses.

But down here in texas…. its heat. Burning hot metal… sweat… sunburn.. your sub misbehaving? Just have them stand outside nude for 2-3 hours. You dont have to spank them to turn their ass pink. Or have them sit naked on the black metal folding chair you left to bake in the sun all day. Get creative.. yes.. heat sucks. But its slightly more bearable if it sucks more for someone else.

Stay cool and dont sweat it. -SirHanz

Yoga Pants

Firstly, let me Express my sincere thanks to whom ever invented this and made it ok for ladies to walk around in public showing off their assets.

Second, why would you wear them to work? I asked a coworker at the yoga center where I cook sometimes. The conversation went like this…

Me “just wanted to make shure you knew… I can totally see your underwear though your yoga pants”

her “yah I know”

me “you realize you are a walking sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen. It’s like if I look I am fired for harassment, if I don’t look I am lying cuz I cant not look.”

Her ” they are just comfortable, and i like to be comfortable when i am working ”

Me *facepalm * “you are killing me here. What if i get distracted and burn myself? Or add too much salt?”

Her “dont do that”

So what have we learned..

1. Fine for around the house.

2. Great if you want to be eye candy.

3. Yes. If they have a print on them or are a light color I can see your thong.

4. Please dont wear them to work. The job is hard enough without accidents happening or being fired for looking at your ass.

5. Seriously… it’s like your not wearing pants. If you wear them in public you are not allowed to give men the evil eye for looking at your legs and ass when you walk around.

Ok rant over. Just for research purposes I am going to need you to pick up the pennies on the floor without bending your knees. Do it for science.